Social media is a tricky thing in regards to infertility. I have had a very interesting experience with this.
I know I am not the only one when I say that it’s NOT easy to login to your social media accounts day in and day out just to see everyone else getting pregnant and having babies. And if that isn’t bad enough…the people who aren’t having babies…are having grand babies. Don’t you feel like the baby announcements just follow you? I surely do.
To be honest, I still struggle with social media, but I can tell you what I have done that has helped immensely.
When I thought I couldn’t handle the pregnancy announcements anymore, I got off of social media. I deactivated all of my accounts and took the apps off of my phone. At first it was hard, but I learned to live without. I learned to be more productive and do other things. I read more. I did more crafts. My house was cleaner. My family relationships were stronger. I was stronger because I wasn’t comparing my life to everyone else’s perfect, baby-filled lives. I was just me.
I understand that this might not be the answer for everyone especially if you run a business online, but it was the best decision for me. It made me emotionally and mentally healthier. Did I do this forever? No. Am I on social media now? Yes. Why? For whatever reason, I feel a little stronger now then I was back then. Yes, I still cry over my infertility, but I am more careful about the time I spend.
Be Mindful of What You Share on Social Media
**Be careful with what you share with others on social media (and in general) about your struggles to conceive.** Here’s what I mean by that. The more you share with people, the more entitled people will feel to ALL the information. You run the risk of people making insensitive comments or asking too many personal questions that you didn’t quite plan on sharing with the world. With that being said, there is so much goodness in talking about these things with the RIGHT people. Maybe close friends and family or people who have gone through it and know EXACTLY what you are going through.
Tips to Surviving Social Media During Infertility
- If you are able (meaning that you don’t have a business that relies on it), go on a “social media fast”. Set a reasonable amount of time and get off of social media.
- Delete the social media apps off of your phone to limit your exposure.
- It sounds harsh, but if you have THAT one friend who is always talking about being pregnant or their millions of babies…unfollow them. If we are talking Facebook, take them off of your news feed. If it’s Instagram, unfollow them…and if you feel the need to follow them again later, request to follow them. I bet they won’t even bat an eye.
If you are wondering what you should do now that the internet isn’t taking up your time, check out a few ideas here. Morale of the story…social media is rough. It’s rough for the normal person who feels like they need to compete with others with their perfect lives. You can and will get through this. Find what works for you. It’s not good to be sad all the time because you are comparing your family to others’. You are special. Your family (whatever the dynamics) is special. You are loved.